Tough Times, Good Times & Roller Coasters…

27 Jul


What a year it’s been already!!!
I think I have had more things happen in my life in the last 7 months than I have in the last 7 years.

…a plethora of emotions that, were more or less like THE most exciting AND terrifying roller coaster ride of my life.

But through it all, I have learnt a lot, even although some lessons were more painful than others.

They say, “What’s bad for the heart, is good for your art” And that has certainly been true in my case, having popped out canvas after canvas, almost like a visual diary of my year so far.

“The most important thing I realized lately is that painful breakups, unrequited love, crappy jobs, and the like, help us to build character. And that no matter how bad it feels, we are much better off because of it.” – Unknown

So here are a few things that have helped me recently that might be of some use to you, if you have been going through some tough times.

Here’s to the next 5 months! May it be just as exciting and terrifying, and remind us that we are alive, and we are here!

“An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward. So when life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means that it’s going to launch you into something great.” – Unknown

(This is an excerpt from an article I read and found helpful, you can read the full article by clicking on HERE)

9 Things to Stop Doing During Hard Times

  1. Hiding from the truth.
    Most people, at the first sign of distress, would rather deny the hard truth than face it.  But the truth does not cease to exist when it is ignored.
  2. Gripping tight to the fantasy of a pain-free life.
    Pain is a part of life, and life’s pains have many shapes and sizes.
  3. Revisiting the past over and over in your mind.
    We are products of our past, but we don’t have to be prisoners of it.  You become a prisoner when you cling to what no longer exists.
  4. Holding on to who you were before the storm.
    Ultimately, you realize you are here to endure these storms, to sacrifice your time and risk your heart.  You are here to be bruised by life.  And when it happens that you are hurt, or betrayed, or rejected, let yourself sit quietly with your eyes closed and remember all the good times you had, and all the sweetness you tasted, and everything you learned.
  5. “Worrying” or “thinking” a situation into something worse than it is.
    What worries you masters you.  Needless worry and negative thinking will never lead to positive change.
  6. Acting like it’s not OK to smile.
    Sometimes a little silliness is all you need to get a better perspective of life’s greatest challenges.
  7. Giving in and giving up as soon as the going gets tough.
    All things are difficult before they are easy, and the roughest roads often lead to the top.  There are simply no easy roads to anywhere worth going.
  8. Wanting to have all the answers.
    Accept the feeling of not knowing exactly where you are going, and train yourself to love and appreciate this sensation of freedom.
  9. Obsessing yourself with negative news.
    Try not to obsess yourself with negative news, especially when you’re in the midst of hard times.

A letter to My Future Husband

14 Feb


Happy Valentine’s Day!

Firstly, congrats on an awesome choice of wife, and sorry about all the singing, and sometimes, (maybe a lot) of dancing around the house

You should know upfront, that right now I am getting a little impatient. Like, could you take any longer? If you don’t hurry you might end up on the couch! (kidding… or maybe I am not)

So I have a couple of things to say specifically in this Valentine’s Day edition letter.

1. I hope you are attending a good bible believing church, and that you are accountable to someone wiser, who cares about you and wants you to grow and be all you can be.

2. If one of our kids ever needs help with Afrikaans homework – You’re up!!!

I don’t want to kiss a thousand frogs before you. I don’t want to just throw myself at anyone, because nobody compares to you. I haven’t always made the best decisions with my heart and my body, but a realized a long time ago that you are worth the wait. Albeit excruciatingly long.

In this time, I will be protecting what is rightfully yours. You wouldn’t want some random guy getting the parts of me that are meant for you.

I am praying for a few things:

That you’re displaying integrity in all you do. That you stand up for what is right and defend those who can’t defend themselves.

That God is developing your heart to be soft and compassionate and strong, and have a servant heart towards others.

That you are seeking God in ALL you do. And Love Him more than you will love me.

That you will raise our children with me to love & serve God, respect themselves and others. that you will love them & tell them every day.

That we will laugh A LOT.

That you will find your dream and chase hard after it in the direction that God takes you.
Take my hand, I will run with you.

That you won’t hide your quirks… but trust that I love them and you just the way you are.
That you always be yourself and feel safe with me.

That you will hold on… and know that I am holding on too…

I can’t promise we will be happy 100% of the time…. But I can promise to love you, even when we are not… and to not be reckless with your heart.

I have one thing to ask of you as of today…

Please be brave – please be courageous, and say “Hi” – because it could be me.

The Road Not Taken – by Robert Frost

1 Feb
I really love this poem…  it never gets old!
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

Rumours & Gullibility

29 Jan

It’s a new year…. 

So I thought I should write something here.  It’s been a bust 1st month of 2011 at work. Getting a lot of new accounts and having to do LOT’S of design work for it.  But all good in the hood…

So as usual when I decide on a whim to update my blog, I find a million other things to distract me…. it’s taken me 30 mins just to write this sentence! :/

We had a scare this week with Mandela’s health, and rumours flying around like mad that he had died… It was mostly irritating…
If you don’t know for certain don’t say anything. And people are so, so gullible these days, so they just pass it along.

I see it on Facebook on a daily basis…. “I got a free iphone just by clicking on this link…”  “This girl commited suicide….” BLAH! really??? Are you seriously that gullible? Anyway… Like my mother always used to say, “It takes all kinds to make the world’ hehehe….

I made some progress on finding my friend Marcel Campell but more on that in another post.

Over and Out for now….

The (w)orld (w)ide (w)eb and HSP (Highly Sensitive People)

13 Jun

So we all know how “public” the internet is… and that there is kind of this freedom of publishing, when it comes to people’s personal profiles/websites.

I had an interesting experience at my workplace this week, where, in the spirit of the World Cup, I posted a video on my YouTube channel ( which proved to be rather “contraversial” or in other word, blown completely out of proportion by certain HSP’s.

The video consisted of some of my colleagues doing a dance for the World cup, which I and several other people thought was great.

Others, however, had ideas of reporting it as offensive to FB, in order to get the link removed from my profile…. pretty pathetic right??

Granted… I should have asked first…

But why the HPYER sensitivity and over reaction…??

I was then instructed to apologize to all in the video and remove it from the web… most just laughed at me, and were bumbed that I was told to remove it… (except for the HSP)

So now, the awesome vid is down… and I’m left wondering if the world is full of idiots who instigate and make out as though things are done maliciously causing others to be upset…. Or if it’s just in my neck of the woods….?

I’m not sure if these people are just self-important or what??

Any attention is better than none right??

I mean, what if they had just left it? Would it have got as much attention???????

I’d love to know…

SO if you have had an experience like this, or if you yourself are an HSP, I would love to hear from you!!

banana interview

16 Apr

Going through the Motions!

16 Apr